In addition to the following channeled message regarding relationships, please read the following very comprehensive and thorough responses Jeanne has given to questions asked by readers regarding the nature of relationships. These helpful responses can be accessed by clicking the links to:
Message #320
Message #380
Message #383
Jeanne Marie Ketchel
Channeled by Jan Ketchel
July 3, 2006
If there is the ability to grow and change, and if there is desire to confront the truth of the self at all times, then there is also the possibility of renewed interest in relations that are meant to be tested and meant to develop and grow with each of us. There is always going to be a need to question the self at all turns, but to question also the other in the relationship is an accurate gauge for how one is doing and how the relationship is progressing. For if there is growth on one side and not growth on the other then there is no true relationship.
Relationship itself, the word, means to maintain balance in relation to another being. To maintain balance with another entails a constant ability to shift and grow, and recover always equilibrium, true equilibrium, based on the self confronting the self and the other maintaining equal self-confrontation as a growth process. At the same time, the confrontation of each to the other, challenging and confronting the truth that is presented to the eyes of the other and examining that too, is true relationship. There is no relationship if there is only self-reflection. There can be no balance if there is only self-confrontation. There is no relationship if one does not dare to look truly at the other and dare to address the truth that is daily laid bare. Unwillingness to accept truth, however, is the demise of many couples. The ability first to know the self and accept the imperfections of the self is key to being always open to the outlook of others, the reflection of others upon the self. The self does not mirror the self, others mirror the true self, and that is how a relationship must be nurtured, by constant tending of that which one is confronted with from all sides. Truth, honesty, and seeking of the truth of the self are necessary for growth.